I’ve always noticed some things about certain people… some people just take things too seriously. Like when you comment on what they’re wearing or you disagree with them, somehow they take it to heart as if you’ve just backstabbed them and it’s a betrayal of your friendship that you didn’t like the same anime that they did.
Three scenarios come to mind – the first is that you both have different tastes, and you disagree, then you find something you do have in common and relate on the latter. The second scenario is that you both have completely different opinions and there’s no common ground, but you agree to disagree. The third scenario is that you just go ALL OUT and verbally (sometimes even physically) BEAT THE CRAP OUT OF THEM because they don’t like what you like. And hey, who can blame you for going all out when the idiot friend who you’re conversing with just DOESN’T GET HOW AWESOME – let’s say – LEVI is, from Shingeki no Kyojin. And you’re ready to tie them up in a courtroom full of people and kick the living crap out of them.
… Worked with Eren I guess
I mean, I feel like some people just take it so personally when I tell them that I just didn’t think their favourite character was as awesome as they thought. And I think it’s partially because of the fact that we relate so much to our favourite characters. All the strengths and weaknesses and quirks that we love in our favourite characters, we probably find in some aspect of our own personalities. In these moments of heated debates, when your favourite characters are challenged and by extension perhaps you feel as if your own person is challenged, I urge you to KEEP CALM. No seriously. Calm the frick down. Because you have to realize that everyone has different tastes and likes different things. It’s especially to keep calm when you’re talking about controversial characters or too clichéd characters or characters you just happen to love for their looks. Let people fangirl or fanboy over what they want. Let them scream and glomp for who they want because you probably feel the same way they do at some point, just towards a different character.
If you think about it, if we all agreed on one ultimate character, we might end up with fifty Kiritos cosplays at an anime convention… oh wait, that already happens. Never mind. Kirito’s a horrible example and in my opinion, he’s way too over-cosplayed, but he’s relatable to a lot of anime fans out there because many of them are gamers and they all really want to actually be trapped inside their favourite video game. Hence, at least fifty Kiritos at every convention…
How many Kiritos does it take to clear a game? Just one, cause it always works out for Kirito. CAUSE HE’S KIRITO DAMMIT!!
Still, there’s a difference between judging something from a more objective perspective than simply from your own selective tastes. For example, I read Tokyo Ravens manga or Shingeki no Kyojin manga and I can honestly say that I am not a fan of the art style either. I found Tokyo Ravens art kind of awkward compared to the animated style and the Shingeki no Kyojin is so shonen and rough that it’s just not for me. BUT on the other hand I absolutely LOVE the art style for Shingeki no Kyojin because it’s exactly that ruggedness that brings out the gritty atmosphere of the story and I really think the art style and the plot go wonderfully together.
All I’m saying is that the next time you get into a heated debate over series endings or anime plotlines or favourite or hated characters, try to keep a clear head. It’s great to find someone who likes what you like cause you can both hop up and down excitedly for twenty minutes together but on the flip side try putting yourself in that other person’s shoes. Why would someone like what I don’t like? Try to come out with some reasons other than, “They’re wrong and stupid. And stupidly wrong. The end.”
I’ve ranted for a while and I think what my main point is – keep an open mind, whether you’re meeting new people or hanging out at a convention or evaluating new anime. I think you’ll find it much easier to make anime friends as well as keep conversations from descending into that awkward “well we don’t have anything in common so let’s slowly walk away from each other” moment. And this probably applies to all hobbies and things in life, not just anime. It just seems to me that there’s always a lot of in-fighting between otakus on who’s the best and which season was better or who the ultimate voice actor is.
Oh and if you’re on the receiving end of this, the best thing to do, when someone is raging at you, is usually to just walk away. That are stick a Miku leek into their mouth to shut them up – depends on who you’re dealing with and whichever’s comes to mind first.
ANYWAY… I hope this post shed some light on your situation if you’re actually arguing with a friend in real life or you’re raging intensely against someone in the comments on the internet somewhere. Thanks so much for reading and I think I’ll try to write more rants this week because I’m feeling rather curious 😉
What are you pondering today?