5 Tips for Making Friends in Other Fandoms

Sora and ShiroHey guys how are you all?

Today I wanted to do Light Otaku Living post that features five friendly tips for making friends in other fandoms because I remember my middle school and high school self being really apprehensive in making friends. I just wasn’t social at all because I felt so content and comfortable in my personal fandom bubble. In fact, later in life I realized it’s much more fun to engage in fandoms such as anime, kpop, comics, movies and the like when you’re surrounded by people as passionate for the medium as you are. This post was inspired by my best guy friend who’s a little bit anxious about making new friends because he’s transferring programs to a new university in the Fall. Like a lot of anime fans, he’s a bit awkward when it comes to meeting new people. So I hope you guys will find today’s tips helpful and encourage yourself to step out of your comfort zone to try something new.

KALMIA Illya1) Don’t Hate – It’s not weird, it’s just different from what you’re used to. Just because you don’t understand a fandom or its fangirls and fanboys, doesn’t mean you should immediately hate on it. Some fandoms are definitely overhyped and others are under-hyped, so take the time to be patient with people you meet and try to get past the mindless squealing and excited fangirling to really hear someone out and understand what they’re fangirling about when you realize their fandom is different from yours.

 2) Ask Questions – You know how you spent about forty hours memorizing random facts on your favourite anime voice actor or all the music show dates for your favourite Kpop groups? Chances are someone else is as obsessed with information hoarding as you. If you hear them mention a name you don’t know or a show you’ve never heard of, ask them to elaborate and chat up the conversation in that way. I don’t know about you but any conversation that lets me show off all my knowledge on all my favourite things is a conversation I’d like to keep going.

Renge3) Be Observant – This one is actually one of my most useful tips. Whether you’re at a club, an event, in class or at a convention, being observant is one of the most important things to keep in mind. When I first met one of my best fangirl friends, we were both attending a screening hosted by my university campus anime club. I noticed two keychains hanging from her purse from one of my all-time favourite anime series. I struck up a conversation with her and this year, she’s my new housemate. You never know where you could find and make new friends for life.

4) Don’t make Assumptions – It’s my understanding that there is a stereotype over all fandom Geeks and otaku. A lot of us fangirls and fanboys have been horribly caricatured as shut-ins who can’t have functioning lifestyles and proper conversations. Don’t assume fangirls or fanboys in your fandom are better than fans of another fandom. Similar to tip number one, keep on open mind and get to know each person as an individual rather than simply judging them based on what fandom they obsess in.

Nagi no Asukara5) Relax – Approaching people is hard, but take a deep breath, roll back your shoulders and stride confidently up to that person. You may surprise them and yourself when you find the courage to speak up. Don’t be afraid to bring up your fandom in introductory conversations when someone asks you about your hobbies. It’s not mandatory to immediately put forth the fact that you’re into so and so fandom but it also shouldn’t be something you intentionally try to hide. Like it or not, your fandom is a part of you, and really if you’re spending over twelve hours a day watching anime, listening to kpop, googling facts and engaging in this fandom, I hope you’d be proud of it and let it shine into your everyday self.

So I hope you guys enjoyed this post and found something relatable. These tips are based purely on my personal experience engaging in different kinds of fandoms from different cultures, not only in anime or Kpop but also various genres of music, dance, literature, photography and other topics. Yeah, I’m an obsessive person.

Haganai Yozora and SenaThe bulk of these tips are also inspired by what I believe is a healthy way to engage in fandom culture while balancing it with a perfectly social and healthy lifestyle. I didn’t include this in the list but you can also make new friends online now over MMO games and forums that engage with individuals all over the world as well as on social media platforms such as Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr and other similar sites. If you’re really nervous about face to face conversations, start with a simple reply to someone on Twitter or just shoot someone a message. Interactions don’t seem as daunting over the screen and you can slowly build up your confidence to approach other fangirls and fanboys in conventions or clubs when you feel ready.

Thank you guys so much for reading!! I hope some of these tips were useful for you guys and if you did, you could always reblog on WordPress or share this on Twitter and Facebook ^^ If you have any tips of your own, feel free to leave them in the comments section below. Thanks for dropping into my blog and I will talk to you all very soon 🙂

– Cloudy

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Cloudy Says…

Hi guys. How are you all? How’s school and work in the new semester and fall? To be honest, school is keeping me so busy these days so I apologize for not being more frequent with reviews. This is also due to the fact that I still have no internet in my new house. God knows how many days it’s been and no internet is a pain. I seriously should have reconsidered this sharing internet with my housemate’s friends-next-door spiel. I can’t stress enough how annoyed I am at the no internet situation, I’m ready and willing to raise hell (by calling Dantalion)… Sigh* the missing reviews will be up soon! (I hope.)

Now that summer anime series are finishing up in the next little while, I’m very excited for the new season releases, so be on the lookout for a poll coming up soon for which series reviews you guys want to see. I’ve also decided to plan a general regimen out for myself every season so that there’s a new schedule that shakes things up from what I’ve done in the past while. Be ready for a lot of merchandise features, some travel stuff and ever always more manga reviews. I’ll try to get some photography out as well. Kingston proves to be a challenge once you see all that the little town has to offer but it will definitely challenge my creativity especially when the beautiful snowy winter sets in.

I really want to thank everyone for following and reading littlecloudcuriosity so far. It really means a lot to me and I can’t thank you enough for all your encouragement and support! I will keep trying my best to do what I do best and hopefully you guys will like what’s coming up!

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Fate Kaleid Liner Prisma Illya Episode 4 Review

“Anything one man can imagine, magic can bring about.” OMG THIS EPISODE WAS THE BEST!!!!!! Translations were up a bit later than usual which is why I didn’t get to his review until today but IT WAS SO WORTH THE … Continue reading

Cloudy Says…

Hey guys! How are your summers so far? Today I have some really exciting news and some updates. With the release of the fifth episodes this weekend, music lovers will be excited to know that opening and ending theme songs for the summer animes will be coming soon. So far, the full opening song for Free!, BroCon, Fantasista Doll and Rozen Maiden (2013) as well as the ending song Kamisama no Inai Nichiyoubi have all been officially released.

Also, yesterday was the release date for Genei wo Kakeru Taiyou, Fate Kaleid Liner and Kimi no Iru Machi’s ending song. Here are the other release dates for animes that I’ve been covering so far…

July 31 – BroCon ED, Fate Kaleid Liner OP

Aug 7 – Free! ED, Genei wo Kakeru Taiyou OP, Rozen Maiden 2013 ED

Aug 14 – Kimi no Iru Machi OP

I’m really excited for this upcoming month. First of all, I’ll be stopping by Atomic Lollipop from August 2nd-4th. My birthday is actually on the 9th and Fanexpo Canada will be at the end of the month from the 22nd-25th

As well, I will be picking up Black Butler volume 14 and hopefully I can get my hands on a copy of the first volume of K-On! College. I know I still owe you guys a review of Missions of Love Volume 4 and that’s coming as soon as I find time to review it. I have a lot of exiting anime reviews to look forward to write every week on top of the other otaku-related rants I’m planning and artwork I’m drawing.

New posts are coming every day as well as new photography that I try to take as often as possible! Thank you guys so much for reading, liking, commenting, following!

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Who’s excited for Fate Kaleid Liner Tomorrow?!!

Hi everyone! Hope you’re all well. The poll for Summer Anime reviews is officially over. Thank you everyone again for voting! I’m super excited for all the new episodes that are coming out tomorrow! I am especially excited to see more of Fate Kaleid Liner. Here’s my first drawing of Illya!

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