5 Tips for Making Friends in Other Fandoms

Sora and ShiroHey guys how are you all?

Today I wanted to do Light Otaku Living post that features five friendly tips for making friends in other fandoms because I remember my middle school and high school self being really apprehensive in making friends. I just wasn’t social at all because I felt so content and comfortable in my personal fandom bubble. In fact, later in life I realized it’s much more fun to engage in fandoms such as anime, kpop, comics, movies and the like when you’re surrounded by people as passionate for the medium as you are. This post was inspired by my best guy friend who’s a little bit anxious about making new friends because he’s transferring programs to a new university in the Fall. Like a lot of anime fans, he’s a bit awkward when it comes to meeting new people. So I hope you guys will find today’s tips helpful and encourage yourself to step out of your comfort zone to try something new.

KALMIA Illya1) Don’t Hate – It’s not weird, it’s just different from what you’re used to. Just because you don’t understand a fandom or its fangirls and fanboys, doesn’t mean you should immediately hate on it. Some fandoms are definitely overhyped and others are under-hyped, so take the time to be patient with people you meet and try to get past the mindless squealing and excited fangirling to really hear someone out and understand what they’re fangirling about when you realize their fandom is different from yours.

 2) Ask Questions – You know how you spent about forty hours memorizing random facts on your favourite anime voice actor or all the music show dates for your favourite Kpop groups? Chances are someone else is as obsessed with information hoarding as you. If you hear them mention a name you don’t know or a show you’ve never heard of, ask them to elaborate and chat up the conversation in that way. I don’t know about you but any conversation that lets me show off all my knowledge on all my favourite things is a conversation I’d like to keep going.

Renge3) Be Observant – This one is actually one of my most useful tips. Whether you’re at a club, an event, in class or at a convention, being observant is one of the most important things to keep in mind. When I first met one of my best fangirl friends, we were both attending a screening hosted by my university campus anime club. I noticed two keychains hanging from her purse from one of my all-time favourite anime series. I struck up a conversation with her and this year, she’s my new housemate. You never know where you could find and make new friends for life.

4) Don’t make Assumptions – It’s my understanding that there is a stereotype over all fandom Geeks and otaku. A lot of us fangirls and fanboys have been horribly caricatured as shut-ins who can’t have functioning lifestyles and proper conversations. Don’t assume fangirls or fanboys in your fandom are better than fans of another fandom. Similar to tip number one, keep on open mind and get to know each person as an individual rather than simply judging them based on what fandom they obsess in.

Nagi no Asukara5) Relax – Approaching people is hard, but take a deep breath, roll back your shoulders and stride confidently up to that person. You may surprise them and yourself when you find the courage to speak up. Don’t be afraid to bring up your fandom in introductory conversations when someone asks you about your hobbies. It’s not mandatory to immediately put forth the fact that you’re into so and so fandom but it also shouldn’t be something you intentionally try to hide. Like it or not, your fandom is a part of you, and really if you’re spending over twelve hours a day watching anime, listening to kpop, googling facts and engaging in this fandom, I hope you’d be proud of it and let it shine into your everyday self.

So I hope you guys enjoyed this post and found something relatable. These tips are based purely on my personal experience engaging in different kinds of fandoms from different cultures, not only in anime or Kpop but also various genres of music, dance, literature, photography and other topics. Yeah, I’m an obsessive person.

Haganai Yozora and SenaThe bulk of these tips are also inspired by what I believe is a healthy way to engage in fandom culture while balancing it with a perfectly social and healthy lifestyle. I didn’t include this in the list but you can also make new friends online now over MMO games and forums that engage with individuals all over the world as well as on social media platforms such as Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr and other similar sites. If you’re really nervous about face to face conversations, start with a simple reply to someone on Twitter or just shoot someone a message. Interactions don’t seem as daunting over the screen and you can slowly build up your confidence to approach other fangirls and fanboys in conventions or clubs when you feel ready.

Thank you guys so much for reading!! I hope some of these tips were useful for you guys and if you did, you could always reblog on WordPress or share this on Twitter and Facebook ^^ If you have any tips of your own, feel free to leave them in the comments section below. Thanks for dropping into my blog and I will talk to you all very soon 🙂

– Cloudy

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Cloudy Says…

Hello everybody! I haven’t talked to you guys in a Cloudy Says post for a while because there has been so much going on. I had Chinese New Year’s and then Reading Week and then the Canadian Autoshow and then Midterms and then I got sick. In fact, I’m still sort of sick but I’m trying to get over it because life doesn’t wait on those buried in mountains of tissues and unwashed dishes.

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Are you guys keeping up with all the current episodes? This week we looked at…

Kill La Kill Episode 20

Tokyo Ravens Episodes 18 and 19 + Episode 20

Nobunaga the Fool Episode 7

As well, other posts include the KidRobot Haul, Haganai Out of the Box and REDLINE the Movie Review

This coming week will brings us reviews and rants for… D-Frag Episode 8 and 9 Review, Nobunaga the Fool Episode 8, Tokyo Ravens Episode 21 and Kill La Kill Episode 21

In a few days, there will be an Out of the Box coming soon for a Nendoroid Petit figure and hopefully I can get to manga review for the first two officially released copies of Dictatorial Grimoire. I also want to make a post on the new UtaPri songs that have come out and just yesterday I placed an order for some wonderful Shingeki no Kyojin merch so there will be a feature for that in a few weeks when my packages come. I can post at regular hours now because internet is finally working steadily at my apartment. Yeah, fingers crossed. This is all just a rough outline of things to come in March but because of my hectic schedule, this Cloudy Says might just help me stay on track.

It is still winter in Canada where I live and it is absolutely horrible. I can’t wait till spring comes because convention season will be all that closer when the snow and ice melts. Wherever you are and wherever you live, I hope you are staying warm and happy this March. We are getting close to the wrap up of many winter series and both of the fall series that have carried past the twelve episode mark. I’m super excited to see Tokyo Ravens and Kill La Kill wrap up (even though I will sorely miss Kill La Kill when it ends). Thank you guys for reading and I will talk to you all soon!

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– Cloudy

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Out of the Box: Boku wa Tomodachi ga Sukunai NEXT Yozora Mikazuki

DSC_0317bcHihi, how are you all doing? Today we’re doing another mini Out of the Box feature this time for Haganai.

I’ve been exploring a lot of my local hobby and anime shops in Toronto and I came across the Boku wa Tomodachi ga Sukunai Next mini character box figures. This line is called the Nano-Colle Series – Haganai Next. If you follow the series or if you’ve seen pictures, you probably know that Yozora cuts her hair in the second season. When I saw Sena and Yozora on the front of the box, I was a little apprehensive just because I wasn’t sure how Yozora’s hair would be styled just by the image. There were only two boxes left and I grabbed both. Luckily or unluckily, I actually got two Yozoras haha, but I really fell in love with her. Her expression is really stoic akin to her personality and the amount of detail in her eyes really brings out her character. The simplistic but accurate detail made my wallet and shopping conscious feel better about getting identical.

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The collection was released in June last year and manufactured by Media Factory. I would really love to get the rest of the characters so I guess it’ll take a bit more merchandise hunting online or around town to find them. For now I’m very happy with Yozora. She is one of the main characters and one of my favourites… maybe you can spot her air friend, Tomo-chan, somewhere in the background of those photos 😉

FIG-COL-5254 Characters_AmiAmiFull collection photo courtesy of AmiAmi.com

These were taken with my Nikon D3100 and the sigma 17-70mm macro lens really came in hand with small figures. Yozora is only about two inches tall but she’s perfect on your desk or on travel if you want to place her in some interesting settings.

I hope you guys liked this Out of the Box feature. If you’re looking for more from me, don’t forget to follow me here or on twitter or facebook or pinterest. New stuff is coming every day! Thanks for dropping in!

– Cloudy

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Cloudy the Ghost Says…

Just wanted to drop in and wish you guys a HAPPY HALLOW’S EVE!!!!!

Posting has been slowing down a bit recently because my laptop is having so many problems. So I’ll try my best to catch. up our fall anime reviews for Tokyo Ravens, Kyoukai no Kanata and another Kill La Kill rant this weekend! (Pssst, there might be a Clannad After Story review coming very soon)

In the manga section…. Missions of Love 5, Haganai 4 (maybe), and a new old series I started reading that’s a secret till it gets posted 😉

Blood-CDo you guys want to see some fanart? Then hit me a like or comment on what character you want me to draw. I’ve been busy with lots of school stuff but I’ll definitely try to fit in some visual arts if you want some of those posts.

What are you guys watching for Halloween? I might put on some Blood-C to go with a hot chocolate and pumpkin sugar cookies tonight. The anime is done by CLAMP so the art is reminiscient of their classic long and slender style. The story, however, is a little dark and falls into the supernatural genre so it’ll be nice to set the mystery mood tonight

I hope you guys have a safe and fun Halloween!! =)

 

– Cloudy

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Haganai Volumes 1-3 Review

Hi guys! Today I’m introducing a really hilarious harem and somewhat ecchi comedic series. I’m not sure how much ecchi content is present in the anime but I haven’t seen too extreme scenes in the manga so far. The story … Continue reading